Everyone always says a marriage takes work. Unfortunately, no matter how much effort you put into your marriage, it might not be healthy for either of you to stay married to each other. Constant arguments and feelings of resentment can negatively impact an individual and the people they love, especially their children. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for everyone involved. But how exactly do you tell your spouse you want a divorce without hurting them further?
Here are some suggestions that might help ease the blow.
Be sure about the divorce
A divorce is not a solution to your marital problems but a resolution between two former spouses looking to reduce conflict by negotiating mutually beneficial terms. Remember that a divorce will bring forth many considerations, including property division, child custody, spousal and child support, legal fees and different settlement agreements. Therefore, you should not make this decision out of anger or spite. You want a divorce because it is best for everyone. It is a decision that you should base on logic and certainty.
Plan what you want to say
Now that you are sure, you must be able to express your sentiments to your spouse in a conducive and compassionate manner. However, you must establish boundaries. They should know you are serious about the divorce. Carefully choosing your words can help them process the information and move forward more effectively.
Talk to your spouse in the proper place and at the right time
Divorce is not a topic you want to open during your spouse’s birthday or at a family gathering. You should find a private place and an appropriate time to start this terribly crucial conversation. Although, you should not use time as an excuse to prolong the inevitable.
Prepare yourself for any adverse reaction
No matter how your spouse reacts, try to remain calm. They might not want a divorce, so their reaction is justifiable. You do not wish to aggravate their emotions by reciprocating them.
Avoid blaming anyone
In Florida, you do not need to establish fault to file for a divorce when there is no retrievable way to fix the marriage. You can proceed with the divorce in more amicable terms if you avoid blaming each other for the mistakes of the past.